#8 Morning Rituals Set Up the Day

morning ritualsMorning rituals set up your day.
Perhaps you resent the time it takes, though.

Try this each morning, instead.
You’ll feel more calm, and it helps you to focus.
It grounds you, centres you, leaves you feeling good physically, and makes you smile.


Simply invite the elements into your morning rituals.


It’s easy.  Stay seated, or stand, it’s up to you.

I start at the North, with Earth, then move through the South (Water), the West (Air) and the East (Fire).
Invite the appropriate element into your day at each compass point.
The element of Earth, helps you to stand on your own two feet, and enables you to use form and structure to manifest the life you want.
Water, helps you to run clear, clean emotional currents, so you can stay in the moment, and not be worried by guilt from the past, nor worry about the future.
The element of Air, helps you to be focused and clear, and set aligned intentions, while the element of Fire, helps you to be motivated and take action.

The fifth and final point is in the centre, and this is where you invite in any deities, goddesses, etc, that you like to work with.

Finally, holding the intention that everyone you invited has accepted, you dance – for as long as you like.
The dance activates all of these energies within your Being.


Perhaps the thought of dancing, scares you.


If the thought of dance scares you, just call it movement.  That’s what you’re doing – moving your body in whatever way you like, to the music.
Any music will do for your morning rituals.
I like “The Circle is Cast” by Robert Gass, as well as something a bit more ethereal like this one.

Morning rituals that can be extended as time allows, are always popular.
There is no right or perfect way, but this one can easily be adapted to suit your day and your circumstances.

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#7 Journaling? Ugh! I’ve Never Liked It.

JournalingJournaling?  Ugh!

I’ve never liked it – not even the word itself.
Why not just call it writing?

I’m sure there are those who swear by the experience and positive effects of journaling.
If that’s you, I take my hat off to you.
I do.
Patience isn’t my biggest strength, so it’s frustrating for me to use journaling as a tool for getting to the bottom of my feelings about something.
(For the record, EFT is a better option for me.)

But yes, you can say whatever you like when you journal.
You can forget all about spelling and grammar and just get it all out on paper, complete with swearing if that suits you.
Use your favourite pen, on paper that’s just the right weight and texture.
Or create a whole ritual around it, really setting the scene with your favourite hot drink, music, oils and candles.
I’ve got no desire to be a  Secret Squirrel, but I’m always a wee bit worried that someone might stumble upon my writing – and to be honest, I’d rather they didn’t.

Journaling? Ugh!

But lately – well,

let’s just say that I’ve been casting some admiring glances at journaling after all.


You see, I’ve discovered something about it that I’d never suspected – and I rather like it.

I’ve started journaling last thing at night,
and it’s unexpectedly rewarding.

There’s nothing earth-changing about the content.
Sometimes I get intuitive or inspirational flashes, lightning-quick moments of pure clarity that leave me either smiling in delight, or awe-struck, at the obvious.
Most times, though, it’s just what I’ve done, who I’ve seen, what I think about this or that, what I want to do – or must do – tomorrow.

It rounds off the day so that I don’t relive it when I close my eyes.
For me, that’s a huge bonus.

Journaling?  Ooh, come a little closer….

#6 – The Elephant in the Room – #blm & #whiteprivilege

the elephant in the room

The elephant in the room is talking about white privilege, and how black lives matter.

I hadn’t intended saying anything about it.
Then I thought, gosh, if you have already got to the place of deciding who or what you’ll support because of their behaviour and attitudes, you’ll want to know where you stand with me.

Now, this isn’t a lecture.

It’s just me, getting my thoughts in order and putting them in writing.


Until recently, whenever I read #BLM, I would say that all lives matter.
They do, but now I realise that this is not about all lives.
White lives matter, too, but this is not about white lives, either.
It’s about the lives of black and indigenous people of colour, who, for centuries and for no good reason, have been deliberately oppressed, belittled, subjugated, silenced, harassed, victimized, deprived, maimed and killed.
It happens here, too.

I think I’m making headway understanding what my white privilege is.
It started when I was born with white skin and into the majority culture of this country.
It’s my culture that created and maintains the institutions that ‘run’ Aotearoa New Zealand;
these institutions and I think alike, I suppose; we have similar expectations about processes and ways of doing things, and as a result, I’m pretty comfortable dealing with them.

There’s my privilege, my advantage, right there.

And if you’re not part of that culture, or you don’t look or sound as if you are (even if you actually are!) you’re on the back foot right from the start.

This is as far as the elephant and I have got on our journey, but at least we’ve started.

Perhaps you want to know more about this, but you’re not sure where to begin.
You can do what I did, and use Google to search for terms like womxn, BIPOC, white privilege, black lives matter.  You can add NZ to each term to make your search country-specific.

And to conclude – an apology.
If, in my white privilege and ignorance thereof, I have ever offended you, I’m deeply sorry.
Please point it out if it happens again so I can make amends and change my ways.

Photo by Joaquín Rivero on Unsplash



#5 – Your brain believes everything it’s told.

your brain believes everythingYour brain believes everything it’s told.
I know, right?!
Everything, no matter if it’s true or not.

Over the years, stories you were told about yourself built upon the stories already there, just like interest compounds on a bank account.
Even if you don’t remember the originals, or who told them, your brain squirrels away that information then quietly replays it at some crucial juncture, stopping you in your tracks and making you doubt yourself and your abilities.

But you can change that.

Start by rewriting the ending of your existing stories.

For example,
Take “I can’t do that” and tack on “I wonder who I can ask for help.”
Or start with “I’ll never be able to afford that!” and finish it with “but it’s going on my vision board anyway, and I’ll start tracking all my income.”


You can create new stories for yourself, too.

For example, create a list of 100 things that you like about yourself.
Include things you’re proud of, and difficulties you’ve overcome.
Read that list last thing each night before turning off the light, and let it all permeate your subconscious while you sleep.

Or read it out loud while you tap on your EFT points.
Really get into it – sound excited, move your body, let go a few whoop-whoops, and have a good time.

Those old stories won’t go without a fight.
But because your brain believes everything it’s told, replace the old stories entirely with new ones that help you move forward with certainty and joy.

If you’d like my help to change some of your old stories, browse my Online Diary here to see what sessions are available.
Or, if you just aren’t sure, a good starting place is my 30-minute Think Out Loud session.


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#4 – Feeling guilty because you still have a Job?

feeling guiltyOver the last little while, I’ve noticed an increasing number of people saying how guilty they feel having a job, income or business when so many others have lost theirs.

Don’t let that stop you.

Don’t let that stop you from earning your income, growing your business – or spending.

See through that insidious story we’ve grown up with
(that says that people who ‘have money’ got it by cheating or by illegal means, and are nasty or unethical),
and embrace the fact that every time you or I spend something,
even if it’s on groceries,
we are helping to keep someone in a job.
Helping to keep someone’s business afloat.
Helping keep that Covid-19 wolf away from someone’s door.

There’s no need for guilt.
Instead, we can grow our income or our businesses to receive more, so that we’re in a better position to help those who aren’t quite as lucky right now.

If you’d like to work with me to learn how to receive more, my “Mindset + Energy 2-Week VIP Intensive” is a good place to start.
You can find out about the Intensive, and even book for an initial chat with me about it, just here.

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#3 – EFT calms us down enough so we can think clearly

A lot of us are experiencing fear, doubt and uncertainty right now.
We’re asking questions like, will the kids be safe once school goes back?
How am I going to pay the rent?
Will I have a job (or a business) at the end of all this?

Know that it’s okay to have these doubts and worries.

When we don’t know the answers, or what to do about it, or even where to start, a technique like EFT can calm us down enough so we can think clearly.
EFT won’t change our situation, okay, but it will reduce our fear and panic.

To begin, choose a set-up statement from this list, or make up your own one that starts with “Even though…” –
– Even though I don’t know what I’m going to do ….
– Even though I don’t know how I’m going to pay the rent ….
– Even though my job looks wobbly ….
– Even though my business is hardly surviving ….
– Even though the kids are driving me mad ….
– Even though I’m worried sick …
– Even though this is keeping me awake at night …..

If you don’t know how to do EFT, or you’ve forgotten, you can click here to watch a short video of me demonstrating it for you, and you can tap along with me if it helps.
Do EFT as often as you can each day.  Use it whenever you feel yourself slipping, when you’re awake at night worrying, when you’re in the shower, at the traffic lights, when you start to get anxious or angry – any time is fine.

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#2 – Opportunities Don’t Wait For Ever

opportunities don't last for everOpportunities don’t wait for ever.
The next time one comes your way, grab it quick by the scruff of its neck and give it a long, hard look.

If you like what you see

and you decide that it really is something you want – act – because it won’t necessarily wait for you for ever.

For reasons like these –
the person you wanted to travel with, up and dies, or gets some health condition that stops them from going with you;
maybe you’re the one who gets a health condition that means you can no longer __________ (fill in the blank);
perhaps your money situation changes;
sometimes, the tour or training that you’d set your heart upon, suddenly isn’t available any more;
then your elderly parent suddenly needs time and attention and more time and more attention;
and more recently, if your dream involved significant travel, it’s probably been brought to a halt – even temporarily – by countries closing their borders in response to Covid-19.

If you have a dream, calling or business that you long to love, get up now and take just one step towards it before it’s too late.
Remember the golden rule – opportunities don’t wait for ever.

If you’re interested in working with me to create – or act upon – opportunities, the “Mindset+ Energy 2-Week Intensive” is a good place to start.
You can find out about the Intensive just here.

(Photo by Drahomír Posteby-Mach on Unsplash)

#1 – Out of balance? Great!

tightrope walkerBeing out of balance can be great!

Like me, you’ll have read plenty of magazine articles and Instagram posts about the importance of keeping things as balanced as possible.
They implore us to notice where our life’s in balance – but mainly where it’s not – then commit to making some changes to put things right.
It’s a whole lot like making New Year resolutions, they say.
So I tell myself blindly that I’ll eat healthy food, get more exercise, paint my nails – you know the things, you say them too.

Bet your boots that nothing changes. 🙂
Because the real cause is most likely something emotional, whose roots are buried deep in childhood events that I don’t even remember any more.

Whenever I crave ice cream and chips over salad and veges, it’s time to wonder what I’m really craving emotionally.
It’s a huge question to face up to, and with huge rewards if I see it through.

Your turn now.
Let’s see – maybe you have a boss who’s so demanding that you never leave work on time?
Your question is – what do you stand to gain by letting yourself be treated like that?

Thing is, being out of balance shows up things that may be just too scary to face right now….
….because if we do the face-it thing, we might lose life as we know it.
Or  – The Biggie – we might just get a much better life!

If you’d like to work with me to redress the balance of your life, my “Mindset + Energy 2-Week Intensive” is a good place to start.
You can find out about the Intensive, and even book for an initial chat, just here.

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